Life.....
I believe in love and marriage. Just didnt think one of our best friends,someone so close to us is capable of such a betrayal.
He didnt just break my best friend's heart...broke her spirit,her confidence,her faith ,her home and her life. What punishment would such a person get?
He has also made me realise that I cant decide or wish what that punishment would be..
Whom am I to judge a person and decide what is right and wrong?
Hubby dear says I had a very protected upbriniging where I thought the world was black and white. Last 7 years of living in this country has made me realise how actually everything is shades of grey.Everything is relative.
He does not think what he did was wrong,as he thinks you cannot decide when you fall in love with someone else.No this is not kabhi alvida naa kehna script...... And ofcourse just because you are married does not mean you cannot love someone else according to him.
Sorry,I am old fashioned....still think it is a great betrayal.
How will we ever get over this and how will Sh ever get over this.......maybbe time will help.
What other lessons did I learn from him
1) know ur husband's bank account passwords and have your own account
2)check ur hubby's pockets and last dialled phone numbers
3) check credit card bills and phone bills
4) dont believe in "was working late","went for a drink with mates" story.
This sounds like a "Cosmopolitan magazine" article ...its not.
I refuse to have my faith broken and no I am not cynical.
My dear cousin S is getting married and I want her to believe in love and trust,it still exists.
And I have no doubt Sh is gonna discover that soon too.
He didnt just break my best friend's heart...broke her spirit,her confidence,her faith ,her home and her life. What punishment would such a person get?
He has also made me realise that I cant decide or wish what that punishment would be..
Whom am I to judge a person and decide what is right and wrong?
Hubby dear says I had a very protected upbriniging where I thought the world was black and white. Last 7 years of living in this country has made me realise how actually everything is shades of grey.Everything is relative.
He does not think what he did was wrong,as he thinks you cannot decide when you fall in love with someone else.No this is not kabhi alvida naa kehna script...... And ofcourse just because you are married does not mean you cannot love someone else according to him.
Sorry,I am old fashioned....still think it is a great betrayal.
How will we ever get over this and how will Sh ever get over this.......maybbe time will help.
What other lessons did I learn from him
1) know ur husband's bank account passwords and have your own account
2)check ur hubby's pockets and last dialled phone numbers
3) check credit card bills and phone bills
4) dont believe in "was working late","went for a drink with mates" story.
This sounds like a "Cosmopolitan magazine" article ...its not.
I refuse to have my faith broken and no I am not cynical.
My dear cousin S is getting married and I want her to believe in love and trust,it still exists.
And I have no doubt Sh is gonna discover that soon too.
posted by mylaiponnu at
5:48 AM
3 Comments:
People change. I completely agree with your husband. I know that it hurts to see two people you love be torn apart.I'm sure Sh will be happy soon.
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Su, at 10:45 PM
Doctor akka, I'm sorry I'm with your hubby on this one... sort of. I don't necessarily think you should cheat on your spouse because you've suddenly taken a fancy to someone else (what good are vows), but I wouldn't condemn the cheater without knowing more. Maybe the marriage is a failure, maybe the spouse is playing one game too many (I have known women who deny sex to feel powerful), god-knows-how-many-explanations-are-there.
But when you start snooping on your spouse, trust is dead, and then the relationship is dead. I would leave a partner who spied on me in a heartbeat ...
By
Karthik Narayanaswamy, at 6:51 PM
Doctor Akka. Please update your friggin' blog. We're kinda bored of belief about love and marriage
YAWN
UPDATE WILL YA
By
Su, at 12:12 AM
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