Life.....

I believe in love and marriage. Just didnt think one of our best friends,someone so close to us is capable of such a betrayal.
He didnt just break my best friend's heart...broke her spirit,her confidence,her faith ,her home and her life. What punishment would such a person get?
He has also made me realise that I cant decide or wish what that punishment would be..
Whom am I to judge a person and decide what is right and wrong?

Hubby dear says I had a very protected upbriniging where I thought the world was black and white. Last 7 years of living in this country has made me realise how actually everything is shades of grey.Everything is relative.

He does not think what he did was wrong,as he thinks you cannot decide when you fall in love with someone else.No this is not kabhi alvida naa kehna script...... And ofcourse just because you are married does not mean you cannot love someone else according to him.
Sorry,I am old fashioned....still think it is a great betrayal.

How will we ever get over this and how will Sh ever get over this.......maybbe time will help.

What other lessons did I learn from him
1) know ur husband's bank account passwords and have your own account
2)check ur hubby's pockets and last dialled phone numbers
3) check credit card bills and phone bills
4) dont believe in "was working late","went for a drink with mates" story.

This sounds like a "Cosmopolitan magazine" article ...its not.
I refuse to have my faith broken and no I am not cynical.
My dear cousin S is getting married and I want her to believe in love and trust,it still exists.
And I have no doubt Sh is gonna discover that soon too.

Unbreak my heart

I was just engaged. Thats when I saw him for the first time.
Truly swept off my feet by him.....his personality,outlook towards life,his values,his love for the woman in his life,all made me adore him. My pati loved him,my mum wished he was her son and I was his fan.
Then I got married, came to live in the same country as him. Fun meant a weekend spent with him and his wife,fun meant talking to them on the phone,fun meant going away on holidays with them. Life seemed so perfect and fine. I got to know him and his wife better and I loved them even more,his wife was(is) now my best friend. I was still his fan.
I remember the nights,we would stay up late and keep laughing over a glass of wine and tub of icecream,the BBQ evenings,clubbing in London and giggling all the way home. I remember the picnics we would go to,summer days by the lake...I remember the talks about us being homesick and talking about Tirchi/madras and which is the best place for a dosai.

I believed in true love after I saw him. I believed in fairytale endings after I saw him. I believed in intercaste marraiges after I saw him.

Other than the two men in my life then,whom I love and adore he was the guy I idolised. I was so glad he was our friend and proud of it.

Then my world came crashing down.........

How can a 40 yr old,born in a hill station in South India,who studied in a small town in South India,married happily to the girl of his dreams for 16 years........then cheat on her and leave her?
At the end of the day he married against his parents wishes proving he was bad son,then a bad husband and now a bad friend.

He did not just break his wife's heart,he broke mine too. Dunno if we will ever see him again or talk to him again as he has decided to move away from all of us.............
dunno if I will ever believe in fairytale endings.......dunno if I will believe in undying love.

Nothing seems to shock me anymore. My adoring husband , who always thinks I am naive and innocent told me last week that I had grown up and not shocked by people or their attitude or their behaviour anymore.All this is thanks to S.

Why did ne do what he did.....maybbe even he does not have the answer to this.

Changing face of medicine

Things are so different to what they were a decade ago. I sit in front of the computer and I have access not just to the medical records but also the internet. In the last few weeks, I have seen weird rashes,rare tropical diseases and what do I do.....just surf some medical websites,with the patient,show him what it could possibly be and work out the mangement together. For many of them I print out information from the internet about their condition and give it to them and ask them to read it in bed!! I wonder if they think I am stupid or do they think I actually care??


I hope its the latter.

Thought for the day

On the way to work,I see a church everyday and what the board reads is really interesting....

1) 7 days without prayer makes one weak

2) Holy Ch--ch. What is missing??

technology

I am back at work. Had a year off which was fantastic and being back is fantastic . I love my work,probably because I work part time. Wish they would pay me full time wages though.

The way things work here is amazing.Every single person is registered with a surgery(which is a doctor's clinic) and the doctors who own and run the place are called partners. So everyone in this country has a general practitioner.
You wake up not feeling well ,call the surgery and you can see a doctor within 24 hours and if you are so unwell,then you get a home visit! even better.
Anyway,all the information about patients is now computerised.paperless surgeries as they are called. So I get to see his/her entire life history in front of me,all medicines they have ever take,operations they have ever had,all with a click on the mouse. Aint that clever!!
Will this ever happen in India? Quite doubtful considering the population,people's expectations and social inequality.

whats in a name?

Back in business!! I wanted a new name for my blog.Wanted something cool,to keep up with my cool sis and cousins.Anyway,I think the name sucks,nevermind! I was reading Hindu yesterday and came across this article by Crazy Mohan.Which is the best place in the world...and according to him,it was Mylapore.I agree with him.
The feelings I get when I am there,I get nowhere else.
I just love Mylapore.Mylai rocks!! The temples,resturants,roadside shopping..... Writing this post brings back memories of many a happy evening I spent with my sis there.
This time J and I did all that and it was wow!!